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Benjamin Deu

Licensed Counselor and Clinical Supervisor

Book reviews by Benjamin Deu

Intimacy & Desire

Intimacy & Desire

by David Schnarch

Many couples begin marital counseling with Dr. David Schnarch with their sex lives in shambles, wondering what's wrong with them, considering divorce. One partner will complain that the other doesn't desire him, the other complains that she's married to a sex maniac. During his 30 years in practice as a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Schnarch has discovered that sexual desire problems are normal and even healthy, in committed relationships.In Intimacy and Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship, Dr. Schnarch explains why couples in long term relationships have sexual desire problems, regardless of how much they love each other or how well they communicate. Through case studies of couples he worked with, Dr. Schnarch shows why normal marital conflict can be the cause of desire problems and creates a roadmap for how couples can transform marital conflict into a stronger relationship and a font of new and powerful desire for each other. He takes it a step further, giving readers simple but effective exercises that will help them reconnect with each other.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Beaufort Books | Pages: 428
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Love and Respect

Love and Respect

by Emerson Eggerichs

Reveals the secret to couples meeting each other's deepest needs--without love she reacts without respect, and without respect he reacts without love, and a painful, negative cycle begins.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Integrity Pub | Pages: 324
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Intimate Allies

Intimate Allies

by Dan B. Allender, Tremper Longman, III,

Allendar has produced a book that looks at the deep underlying reasons for the unhappiness many people feel in marriage.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. | Pages: 364
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The Healing Path

The Healing Path

by Dan B. Allender

A compelling, inspirational guide to healing from old wounds shows readers how to channel the painful energy of past hurts into a meaningful, fruitful life. Original.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Waterbrook Press | Pages: 272
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Telling Secrets

Telling Secrets

by Frederick Buechner

With eloquence, candor, and simplicity, a celebrated author tells the story of his father's alcohol abuse and suicide and traces the influence of this secret on his life as a son, father, husband, minister, and writer.

Genre: Religion | publisher: HarperOne | Pages: 128
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Addiction and Grace

Addiction and Grace

by Gerald G. May

Addiction and Grace offers an inspiring and hope–filled vision for those who desire to explore the mystery of who and what they really are. May examines the "processes of attachment" that lead to addiction and describes the relationship between addiction and spiritual awareness. He also details the various addictions from which we can suffer, not only to substances like alcohol and drugs, but to work, sex, performance, responsibility, and intimacy. Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist working with the chemically dependent, May emphasizes that addiction represents an attempt to assert complete control over our lives. Addiction and Grace is a compassionate and wise treatment of a topic of major concern in these most addictive of times, one that can provide a critical yet hopeful guide to a place of freedom based on contemplative spirituality.

Genre: Self-Help | publisher: HarperOne | Pages: 240
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Some of the Ways of God in Healing

Some of the Ways of God in Healing

by Joy Dawson

"Joy Dawson has been teaching the Bible internationally since 1970. Her missionary journeys have taken her to over 55 nations and every continent. She has taught extensively on television and radio, and her audio-and video-tapes have been distributed worldwide. The character and ways of God are the biblical basis of her penetrating teachings. for those who are tired of pat answers from isolated Bible verses on the subject of healing, Joy Dawson presents a practical, balanced perspective. In ruthless pursuit of truth on the subject of healing, this book directly addresses difficult issues such as why some people are never healed, while others who might seem less deserving are healed quickly. Numerous personal experiences and a deep probing of Scripture are combined with an unflinching examination of the biblical purposes for illness and healing.

Genre: Body, Mind & Spirit | publisher: YWAM Publishing | Pages: 144
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Sacred Pain

Sacred Pain

by Ariel Glucklich

Why would anyone seek out the very experience the rest of us most wish to avoid? Why would religious worshipers flog or crucify themselves, sleep on spikes, hang suspended by their flesh, or walk for miles through scorching deserts with bare and bloodied feet? In this insightful new book, Ariel Glucklich argues that the experience of ritual pain, far from being a form of a madness or superstition, contains a hidden rationality and can bring about a profound transformation of the consciousness and identity of the spiritual seeker. Steering a course between purely cultural and purely biological explanations, Glucklich approaches sacred pain from the perspective of the practitioner to fully examine the psychological and spiritual effects of self-hurting. He discusses the scientific understanding of pain, drawing on research in fields such as neuropsychology and neurology. He also ranges over a broad spectrum of historical and cultural contexts, showing the many ways mystics, saints, pilgrims, mourners, shamans, Taoists, Muslims, Hindus, Native Americans, and indeed members of virtually every religion have used pain to achieve a greater identification with God. He examines how pain has served as a punishment for sin, a cure for disease, a weapon against the body and its desires, or a means by which the ego may be transcended and spiritual sickness healed. "When pain transgresses the limits," the Muslim mystic Mizra Asadullah Ghalib is quoted as saying, "it becomes medicine." Based on extensive research and written with both empathy and critical insight, Sacred Pain explores the uncharted inner terrain of self-hurting and reveals how meaningful suffering has been used to heal the human spirit.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Oxford University Press on Demand | Pages: 278
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

by John Gottman, John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver,

Drawing on groundbreaking research into the dynamics of healthy relationships, a study of the basic principles that make up a happy, long-lasting marriage shares easy-to-understand, helpful advice on how to cope with such issues as work, children, money, sex, and stress. 35,000 first printing. Tour.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Harmony | Pages: 320
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Hold Me Tight

Hold Me Tight

by Sue Johnson

Introduces the author's Emotionally Focused Therapy technique, explaining how to assist couples by treating their relationship as a love-based, attachment bond that can be healed through a reestablishment of safe emotional connections.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Little Brown & Company | Pages: 320
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Female Perversions

Female Perversions

by Louise J. Kaplan

Louise J. Kaplan challenges the traditional view that perversion represents deviant sexual behavior in this "fascinating and ambitious new study".--The New York Times Book Review. "This masterful study breaks new ground in our understanding of sexuality, gender roles and the way modern society trivializes erotic expression".--Publishers Weekly.

Genre: Bovary, Emma (Fictitious character) | publisher: Jason Aronson Incorporated | Pages: 580
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Skin Game

Skin Game

by Caroline Kettlewell

A personal account of the struggle with self-mutilation or "cutting," discusses the family turmoil and personal anguish that led an intelligent young woman to relieve her anxieties by self-mutilation

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher: Macmillan | Pages: 192
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The Wounded Heart

The Wounded Heart

by Dan B. Allender

A non-discriminating guide for friends of adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse offers specific insights into the trauma form's intensely personal aspects and how to offer faith-based support, sharing additional coverage of related false-memory issues.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 271
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Naming the Shadows

Naming the Shadows

by Susan Roth

Although numerous books have been written about childhood incest and trauma, until now none of them has combined the best of what scientific psychology has to offer with detailed representation and narrative about the ways that childhood sexual trauma within the family context affects the lives of adult survivors. Naming the Shadows is the first book to offer practitioners and students-in-training an in-depth exploration of a trauma-focused approach to individual and group psychotherapy that respects scientific rules of evidence and at the same time attempts to honor the complexity and subjectivity of an individual survivor's experience. Roth and Batson, psychologist and psychiatrist, respectively, with many years of expertise in treating survivors of sexual trauma, explain how targets of treatment are conceptualized as identity and relational issues that derive from an enduring adaptation to childhood trauma. The authors believe that, at its best, psychotherapy provides a therapeutic social context in which survivors can achieve a true understanding of their adaptation and gain self-knowledge of the meaning and enduring influence of traumatic childhood experience. Drawing on the authors' own innovative research, on the widespread experience of colleagues, and on vivid dialogue from survivors themselves, Naming the Shadows has important implications for our understanding of the process of coping with childhood sexual abuse.

Genre: Psychology | publisher:  | Pages: 226
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False Intimacy

False Intimacy

by Harry W. Schaumburg, The Navigators,

Biblical healing from sexual addiction with hope and compassion.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 256
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Healing Spiritual Abuse

Healing Spiritual Abuse

by Ken Blue

Are you a victim of Spiritual Abuse? Are you discouraged from questioning the decisions or teachings church leaders make? If you do little or no volunteer work for the church, do you feel like a second-class Christian? Does your pastor insist on being addressed by a title such as "Dr." or "Pastor"? Do you hear many broad, vague appeals to "surrender fully," "yield completely" or "lay it all on the altar"? Are public reports about various ministry activities sometimes exaggerated? Do church members feel safe talking only about past victories, not present struggles? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be a victim of spiritual abuse. Many of us have gone through bad church experiences that have left us feeling like failures. Blaming ourselves, we asked for God's forgiveness, but felt distant from the church and sometimes from God too. Often, however, the fault is not ours but that of Christian leaders who abuse spiritually. How can we recognize the signs of spiritual abuse? What can we do to gain healing from the wounds we have experienced? With clarity and refreshing honesty, Ken Blue answers these questions and offers hope and healing to the victims of spiritual abuse. In addition he shows Christian leaders how to avoid abusive patterns and instead offer Christ's gospel of grace to every casualty of bad church experiences.

Genre: Religion | publisher: IVP Books | Pages: 166
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The Cry of the Soul

The Cry of the Soul

by Dan B. Allender, Tremper Longman, III,

Embrace your negative emotions (anger, worry, fear) to reveal truths about God and gain a more intimate relationship with Him.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 270
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God at War

God at War

by Gregory A. Boyd

Discusses the problem of evil, the Bible narrative, and the teachings of Jesus in the light of the age old conflict between God and the Devil.

Genre: Religion | publisher: InterVarsity Press | Pages: 414
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Bold Love

Bold Love

by Dan B. Allender, Tremper Longman, III,

The kind of love modeled by Jesus Christ had nothing to do with unconditional acceptance or manners. Learn to love others with a bold love.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 320
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Satan and the Problem of Evil

Satan and the Problem of Evil

by Gregory A. Boyd

The author explores the intellectual questions raised by mental and physical suffering.

Genre: Religion | publisher: InterVarsity Press | Pages: 456
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The God Who Risks

The God Who Risks

by John Sanders

If God is all-knowing and all-powerful, can he in any way be vulnerable to his creation? Can God be in control of anything at all if he is not constantly in control of everything? John Sanders says yes to both of these questions. In The God Who Risks, he mounts a careful and challenging argument for positive answers to both of these profound theological questions. In this thoroughly revised edition, Sanders clarifies his position and responds to his critics. His book will not only contribute to serious ongoing theological discussion but will enlighten pastors and laypersons who struggle with questions about suffering, evil and human free will.

Genre: Religion | publisher: IVP Academic | Pages: 384
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Embodying Forgiveness

Embodying Forgiveness

by L. Gregory Jones

In an engaging and interesting style that draws on a wide variety of literature as well as on Scripture and theological texts, Jones shows how the practices of Christian forgiveness are richer and more comprehensive than often thought.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing | Pages: 313
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Rees Howells

Rees Howells

by Norman Percy Grubb

Can one man's prayers change world events? This vivid, inspiring biography tells the story of a Welsh coal miner who surrendered himself entirely to God and found the key to prayer that changed the course of many nations.

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher: CLC Ministries | Pages: 263
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Let your life speak

Let your life speak

by Parker J. Palmer

"Is the life I am living the same as the life that wants to live in me?" With this searching question, Parker Palmer begins an insightful and moving meditation on finding one's true calling. Let Your Life Speak is an openhearted gift to anyone who seeks to live authentically.The book's title is a time-honored Quaker admonition, usually taken to mean "Let the highest truths and values guide everything you do." But Palmer reinterprets those words, drawing on his own search for selfhood. "Before you tell your life what you intAnd to do with it," he writes, "listen for what it intAnds to do with you. Before you tell your life what truths and values you have decided to live up to, let your life tell you what truths you embody, what values you represent."Vocation does not come from willfulness, no matter how noble one's intentions. It comes from listening to and accepting "true self" with its limits as well as its potentials. Sharing stories of frailty and strength, of darkness and light, Palmer shows that vocation is not a goal to be achieved but a gift to be received.As we live more deeply into the selfhood that is our birthright gift, we find not only personal fulfillment. We find communion with others and ways of serving the world's deepest needs.A Compassionate and Compelling Meditation on Discovering Your Path in LifeWith wisdom, compassion, and gentle humor, Parker J. Palmer invites us to listen to the inner teacher and follow its leadings toward a sense of meaning and purpose. Telling stories from his own life and the lives of others who have made a difference, he shares insights gained from darkness and depression as well as fulfillment and joy, illuminating a pathway toward vocation for all who seek the true calling of their lives."Parker Palmer's writing is like a high country stream-clear, vital, honest. If your life seems to be passing you by, or you cannot see the way ahead, immerse yourself in the wisdom of these pages and allow it

Genre: Education | publisher: Jossey-Bass Inc Pub | Pages: 117
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The 4-hour Workweek

The 4-hour Workweek

by Timothy Ferriss

An edition expanded with more than 100 pages of new content offers a blueprint for a better life, whether one's dream is escaping the rat race, experiencing high-end world travel, earning a monthly five-figure income with zero management or just living more and working less.

Genre: Business & Economics | publisher: Crown | Pages: 396
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Getting to Yes

Getting to Yes

by Roger Fisher, William Ury, Bruce Patton,

"Since it was first published in 1981 Getting to Yes has become a central book in the Business Canon: the key text on the psychology of negotiation. Its message of "principled negotiations"--finding acceptable compromise by determining which needs are fixed and which are flexible for negotiating parties--has influenced generations of businesspeople, lawyers, educators and anyone who has sought to achieve a win-win situation in arriving at an agreement. It has sold over 8 million copies worldwide in 30 languages, and since it was first published by Penguin in 1991 (a reissue of the original addition with Bruce Patton as additional coauthor) has sold over 2.5 million copies--which places it as the #10 bestselling title overall in Penguin Books, and #3 bestselling nonfiction title overall. We have recently relicensed the rights to Getting to Yes, and will be doing a new revised edition--a 30th anniversary of the original publication and 20th of the Penguin edition. The authors will be bringing the book up to date with new material and a assessment of the legacy and achievement of Getting to Yes after three decades"--

Genre: Business & Economics | publisher: Penguin Paperbacks | Pages: 204
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Wild at Heart

Wild at Heart

by John Eldredge

John Eldredge revises and updates his best-selling, renowned Christian classic. God designed men to be dangerous, says John Eldredge. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the heart of every boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to live a life of adventure and risk. Sadly, most men abandon those dreams and desires-aided by a Christianity that feels like nothing more than pressure to be a "nice guy." It is no wonder that many men avoid church, and those who go are often passive and bored to death. In this provocative book, Eldredge gives women a look inside the true heart of a man and gives men permission to be what God designed them to be-dangerous, passionate, alive, and free.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Thomas Nelson Inc | Pages: 255
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Controlling People

Controlling People

by Patricia Evans

Learn how to 'break the spell' of control with Patricia Evans' new bestseller. Already hailed by Oprah Winfrey, Controlling People deals with issues big and small - revealing the thought processes of those who seek to control in order to provide a 'spell-breaking' mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Invaluable insight and advice for those who seek support.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Adams Media | Pages: 352
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Parenting with Love and Logic

Parenting with Love and Logic

by Foster Cline, Jim Fay,

Argues that children must learn to make their own decisions and accept the consequences, and shows parents ways to encourage responsibility while maintaining discipline

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 229
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Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time

Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time

by Stephen A. Mitchell

"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: W. W. Norton & Company | Pages: 224
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Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy, Fifth Edition

Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy, Fifth Edition

by Irvin D. Yalom, Molyn Leszcz,

The fifth edition of the best-selling text?completely revised to reflect the latest developments in the field

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Basic Books | Pages: 688
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When Love is Not Enough

When Love is Not Enough

by Nancy L. Thomas

When Love is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD-Reactive Attachment Disorder brings hope and healing tools to parents and professionals working to help challenging children. Effective interventions, a full step by step plan, clearer insight and understanding make a powerful difference in helping children heal. If you want to make a difference in the life of a hurting child, this book will do it! This plan was honed on some of the most difficult children in the US and has been used successfully to help thousands of children around the world. Children can learn to be respectful, responsible and fun to be with. This book tells the reader how to do it and then zaps them with a boost of encouragement to get started!

Genre: Education | publisher:  | Pages: 141
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Stop Walking on Eggshells

Stop Walking on Eggshells

by Paul T. Mason (M.S.), Randi Kreger,

Discusses the signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder and explains how the families and friends of patients can cope with BPD behavior while taking care of themselves.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: New Harbinger Publications | Pages: 260
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The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook

The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook

by Randi Kreger

A practical guide to living with a person who suffers from a personality disorder shows readers how to set limits and boundaries, communicate clearly, make realistic decisions, and develop a safety plan. Original.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated | Pages: 207
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Passionate Marriage

Passionate Marriage

by David Morris Schnarch

Explains how to achieve emotional, sexual, and personal fulfillment and intimacy while in a committed relationship.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: W. W. Norton | Pages: 444
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Resurrecting Sex

Resurrecting Sex

by David Schnarch, James Maddock,

In this remarkable new book, Dr. David Schnarch, world-renowned sex and marital therapist and author of Passionate Marriage, offers a groundbreaking approach to resolving sexual difficulties and the relationship problems they cause. By showing couples how they can turn their worst sex and relationship disasters into personal growth and spiritual connection, Dr. Schnarch offers couples the best sex of their lives. In addition to taking an unflinchingly honest, realistic, and erotic approach to sex, Dr. Schnarch reveals the complicated emotional interactions hidden within couples' most private moments. Resurrecting Sex speaks of compassion, partnership, generosity, and integrity in adult sexual relationships, offering hope to millions of people -- golden-anniversary marriages, newly formed couples, and singles alike -- who are struggling with sexual difficulties. Uplifting, provocative, and heartfelt, the book is organized into four sections: A crash course in sex Explanation of how sexual relationships really work Medical options and bionic solutions Vignettes of couples changing their sexual relationships Resurrecting Sex addresses all major sexual issues, including male erection problems such as rapid orgasm and delayed orgasm; women's problems with arousal and lubrication, difficulty reaching orgasm, and low desire; full coverage of Viagra (for both men and women); and other sex-enhancing drugs and medical options. Rather than dwelling on sexual techniques, this sympathetic book shows how to cure the rejection, hostility, and emotional alienation that often accompany sexual problems. Its unique method helps couples develop the love, affection, and commitment that prevent divorce and strengthen families. Generous of spirit, enlightened, and insightful, Resurrecting Sex is destined to make the world a better place to fall in love.

Genre: Self-Help | publisher: Harper | Pages: 336
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Cracking Up

Cracking Up

by Christopher Bollas

In Being a Character, Christopher Bollas argued that Freud's vision of the dream process is a model for all unconscious mental experience. In Cracking Up he extends his exploration of the inner world of human experience and suggests that the rhythm of that experience is vital to individual creativity. It allows us to develop what the author calls a 'separate sense', which we use to assess the meanings of our own experiences and also to attune ourselves sympathetically to the lives of other people. In this original and thought-provoking book, Bollas examines how people educate one another in the idioms of their unconscious lives and considers the nature and consequences of the traumas that inhibit the freedom to do this. He studies what we mean by the past - is it unchangeable or can history be a creative, open understanding of experience? We come to know who we are by giving form and meaning to our past - yet what do we mean by the self? Bollas' answer suggests yet more ways in which the 'separate sense' expresses each person's unique qualities.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Hill and Wang | Pages: 264
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The Drama of the Gifted Child

The Drama of the Gifted Child

by Alice Miller, Ruth Ward,

Miller’s wide and profound book about childhood trauma has provided thousands of readers with guidance and hope, and is essential reading for those interested in psychology, psychotherapy, and more.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Basic Books | Pages: 133
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Subject Relations

Subject Relations

by Naomi G. Rucker, Karen L. Lombardi,

Traditional psychoanalysis views relationships as forged through individual drives--a satisfaction and fulfillment of needs and desires. Rucker and Lombardi contend, however, that all relationships cannot be explained so simply; rather, they argue that human relationships carry meanings which cannot be reduced solely to the psychic contributions of each of the individuals involved. Instead, Subject Relations discusses the existence of a related unconscious rooted in mutual subjective experience. The authors cite numerous clinical examples that show how the unconscious material generated by human interrelatedness comes to light. Drawing on the work of Matte-Blanco as well as traditional object relations theorists such as Melanie Klein, D.W. Winnicott, and Thomas Ogden, the authors examine how identifications that exist through unconscious processes manifest themselves in psychoanalytic theory and practice.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Psychology Press | Pages: 188
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The Universe Next Door

The Universe Next Door

by James W. Sire

Voted one of Christianity Today's 1998 Books of the Year! For more than thirty years, The Universe Next Door has set the standard for a clear, readable introduction to worldviews. In this new fifth edition James Sire offers additional student-friendly features to his concise, easily understood introductions to theism, deism, naturalism, Marxism, nihilism, existentialism, Eastern monism, New Age philosophy and postmodernism. Included in this expanded format are a new chapter on Islam and informative sidebars throughout. The book continues to build on Sire's refined definition of worldviews from the fourth edition and includes other updates as well, keeping this standard text fresh and useful. In a world of ever-increasing diversity, The Universe Next Door offers a unique resource for understanding the variety of worldviews that compete with Christianity for the allegiance of minds and hearts. The Universe Next Door has been translated into over a dozen languages and has been used as a text at over one hundred colleges and universities in courses ranging from apologetics and world religions to history and English literature. Sire's Naming the Elephant: Worldview as a Concept provides a useful companion volume for those desiring a more in-depth discussion of the nature of a worldview.

Genre: Religion | publisher: IVP Academic | Pages: 293
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The Lexus and the Olive Tree

The Lexus and the Olive Tree

by Thomas L. Friedman

A brilliant investigation of globalization, the most significant socioeconomic trend in the world today, and how it is affecting every part of society--economically, politically, and culturally--abroad and at home.

Genre: Business & Economics | publisher: Macmillan | Pages: 490
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The Fourth Dimension

The Fourth Dimension

by David Yonggi Cho, Yong-gi Cho, R. Whitney Manzano,

Discover a new world of answered prayer and how to live by faith.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Bridge Logos Foundation | Pages: 156
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Flame of Love

Flame of Love

by Clark H. Pinnock

A 1997 Christianity Today Book of the Year In what may be regarded as his magnum opus, Clark Pinnock here turns attention to the vital Christian doctrine of the Holy Spirit. Writing out of wide learning and deep personal passion, he shows us the way to restore the oft-neglected Spirit to centrality in the life and witness of the church. Pinnock explores the doctrine of the Spirit in relation to other key doctrines such as the Trinity, creation, Christology and the church. Never one to duck the difficult or sensitive questions, he also examines issues of the Spirit's universality, gender language for the Spirit, and charismatic gifts. Pinnock intends his book to be catholic (in the sense of respecting the beliefs and worship of the historic church) and evangelical (drawing particularly on the heritage of the Reformation). Always in sight is the mission of the church, for "people want to meet the real and living God and will not be satisfied with a religion that only preaches and moralizes." He concludes, "Only by attending to the Spirit can we move beyond sterile rationalist religion in the direction of recovering the sense of intimacy and immediacy for which our generation--and every generation--longs."

Genre: Religion | publisher: IVP Academic | Pages: 288
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The Final Quest

The Final Quest

by Rick Joyner

This is the account Rick Joyner gives of a vision he experienced over the course of a year in which he claims to have viewed the unfolding of the last battle between light and darkness. This is the complete vision, including parts not previously seen.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Morningstar Publications (NC) | Pages: 170
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The Call

The Call

by Rick Joyner

This long-awaited sequel to The Final Quest calls believers to seize the great spiritual opportunities available to us in these last days. Now is the time for Christians to take a stand against the darkness for the sake of the Light who is surely coming.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Morningstar Publications (NC) | Pages: 160
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Beyond Foundationalism

Beyond Foundationalism

by Stanley James Grenz, John R. Franke,

Grenz and Franke provide a methodological approach for doing theology in the postmodern world. They call for a theological method that moves beyond the Enlightenment way of ordering and understanding information (foundationalism). They propose a theological method that takes seriously the Spirit, tradition and contemporary culture, while stressing trinitarian structure, community and eschatology.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Westminster John Knox Press | Pages: 298
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The Next Christendom

The Next Christendom

by Philip Jenkins

This new and substantially expanded edition of Philip Jenkins's influential book The Next Christendom tracks the remarkable expansion of Christianity in the global South, in Africa, Asia and Latin America, and the implications of that shift in numbers and influence away from the traditional Christian heartlands of Europe and North America.

Genre: Religion | publisher: OUP USA | Pages: 346
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A New Kind of Christian

A New Kind of Christian

by Brian D. McLaren

A Leadership Network Publication A New Kind of Christian's conversation between a pastor and his daughter's high school science teacher reveals that wisdom for life's most pressing spiritual questions can come from the most unlikely sources. This stirring fable captures a new spirit of Christianity--where personal, daily interaction with God is more important than institutional church structures, where faith is more about a way of life than a system of belief, where being authentically good is more important than being doctrinally "right," and where one's direction is more important than one's present location. Brian McLaren's delightful account offers a wise and wondrous approach for revitalizing Christian spiritual life and Christian congregations. If you are interested in joining a discussion group devoted to a A New Kind of Christian please visit groups.yahoo.com/group/NKOC.

Genre: Religion | publisher: John Wiley & Sons | Pages: 320
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The Story We Find Ourselves In

The Story We Find Ourselves In

by Brian D. McLaren

The much anticipated sequel to McLaren's award-winning "A New Kind of Christian" captures a new spirit of a relevant Christianity, where traditional divisions and doctrinal differences give way to a focus on God.

Genre: Fiction | publisher: John Wiley & Sons | Pages: 336
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Not the Way It's Supposed to Be

Not the Way It's Supposed to Be

by Cornelius Plantinga

"Plantinga's treatment of sin is comprehensive, articulate, and well written. It confirms the orthodox and neo-orthodox doctrine of sin, lavishly illustrates it from contemporary events, and plumbs depths in understanding sin's complexities and banalities...

Genre: Religion | publisher: Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing | Pages: 216
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Three Steps on the Ladder of Writing

Three Steps on the Ladder of Writing

by Hélène Cixous, Sarah Cornell, Susan Sellers,

Three Steps on the Ladder of Writing is a poetic, insightful, and ultimately moving exploration of 'the strange science of writing.' In a magnetic, irresistible narrative, Cixous reflects on the writing process and explores three distinct areas essential for 'great' writing: The School of the Dead--the notion that something or someone must die in order for good writing to be born; The School of Dreams--the crucial role dreams play in literary inspiration and output; and The School of Roots--the importance of depth in the 'nether realms' in all aspects of writing. Cixous's love of language and passion for the written word is evident on every page. Her emotive style draws heavily on the writers she most admires: the Brazilian novelist Clarice Lispector, the Russian poet Marina Tsvetaeva, the Austrian novelists Ingeborg Bachmann and Thomas Bernhard, Dostoyevsky and, most of all, Kafka. -- Jacques Derrida

Genre: Language Arts & Disciplines | publisher: Columbia University Press | Pages: 162
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Their Eyes Were Watching God

Their Eyes Were Watching God

by Zora Neale Hurston

One of the most important works of twentieth-century American literature, Zora Neale Hurston's beloved 1937 classic, Their Eyes Were Watching God, is an enduring Southern love story sparkling with wit, beauty, and heartfelt wisdom. Told in the captivating voice of a woman who refuses to live in sorrow, bitterness, fear, or foolish romantic dreams, it is the story of fair-skinned, fiercely independent Janie Crawford, and her evolving selfhood through three marriages and a life marked by poverty, trials, and purpose. A true literary wonder, Hurston's masterwork remains as relevant and affecting today as when it was first published -- perhaps the most widely read and highly regarded novel in the entire canon of African American literature.

Genre: Fiction | publisher: Harper Collins | Pages: 256
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The Long Hard Road Out of Hell

The Long Hard Road Out of Hell

by Marilyn Manson, Neil Strauss,

The best-selling autobiography of America’s most controversial celebrity icon, Marilyn Manson (with a bonus chapter not in the hardcover). In his twenty-nine years, rock idol Manson has experienced more than most people have (or would want to) in a lifetime. Now, in his shocking and candid memoir, he takes readers from backstage to gaol cells, from recording studios to emergency rooms, from the pit of despair to the top of the charts, and recounts his metamorphosis from a frightened Christian schoolboy into the most feared and revered music superstar in the country. Illustrated with dozens of exclusive photographs and featuring a behind-the-scenes account of his headline-grabbing Dead to the World tour.

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher: Harper Collins | Pages: 288
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My First White Friend

My First White Friend

by Patricia Raybon

A black writer and commentator on National Public Radio's Weekend Edition traces her path from hatred of white people to love through learning to love herself and overcoming her alienation from her race. Reprint.

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher: Penguin | Pages: 236
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Love's Executioner

Love's Executioner

by Irvin D. Yalom

The risks and rewards of psychotherapy are examined by one of its finest practitioners through ten case studies of individuals with unique problems that nevertheless reflect on the whole human condition.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Basic Books | Pages: 285
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Blue Like Jazz

Blue Like Jazz

by Donald Miller

"I never liked jazz music because jazz music doesn't resolve. I used to not like God because God didn't resolve. But that was before any of this happened." ?Donald Miller In Donald Miller's early years, he was vaguely familiar with a distant God. But when he came to know Jesus Christ, he pursued the Christian life with great zeal. Within a few years he had a successful ministry that ultimately left him feeling empty, burned out, and, once again, far away from God. In this intimate, soul-searching account, Miller describes his remarkable journey back to a culturally relevant, infinitely loving God. For anyone wondering if the Christian faith is still relevant in a postmodern culture. For anyone thirsting for a genuine encounter with a God who is real. For anyone yearning for a renewed sense of passion in life. Blue Like Jazz is a fresh and original perspective on life, love, and redemption.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Thomas Nelson Incorporated | Pages: 243
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Difficult Conversations

Difficult Conversations

by Douglas Stone, Sheila Heen, Bruce Patton,

The authors cover difficult situations in both personal and professional life.

Genre: Language Arts & Disciplines | publisher: Penguin Paperbacks | Pages: 315
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Realities and Relationships

Realities and Relationships

by Kenneth J. Gergen

Recent attempts to challenge the primacy of reason--and its realization in foundationalist accounts of knowledge and cognitive formulations of human action--have focused on processes of discourse. Drawing from social and literary accounts of discourse, Kenneth Gergen considers these challenges to empiricism under the banner of "social construction." His aim is to outline the major elements of a social constructionist perspective, to illustrate its potential, and to initiate debate on the future of constructionist pursuits in the human sciences generally and psychology in particular.

Genre:  | publisher: Harvard University Press | Pages: 368
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Surprised by the Power of the Spirit

Surprised by the Power of the Spirit

by Jack Deere

What caused a former Dallas Seminary professor to believe that the miraculous gifts of the Holy Spirit are being given today? What convinced someone skeptical about miracles that God still speaks and heals? A dramatic change took place in Jack Deere’s life when he took a fresh look at the Scriptures. He discovered that his cherished arguments against miraculous gifts were based more on prejudice and a lack of personal experience than on the Bible. As soon as Deere became a seeker instead of a skeptic, the Holy Spirit revealed himself in new and surprising ways. In Surprised by the Power of the Spirit, Jack Deere provides a strong biblical defense for the Spirit’s speaking and healing ministries today.

Genre:  | publisher: Zondervan | Pages: 306
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When Love is Not Enough

When Love is Not Enough

by Nancy L. Thomas

When Love is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD-Reactive Attachment Disorder brings hope and healing tools to parents and professionals working to help challenging children. Effective interventions, a full step by step plan, clearer insight and understanding make a powerful difference in helping children heal. If you want to make a difference in the life of a hurting child, this book will do it! This plan was honed on some of the most difficult children in the US and has been used successfully to help thousands of children around the world. Children can learn to be respectful, responsible and fun to be with. This book tells the reader how to do it and then zaps them with a boost of encouragement to get started!

Genre: Education | publisher:  | Pages: 141
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Dandelion on My Pillow, Butcher Knife Beneath

Dandelion on My Pillow, Butcher Knife Beneath

by Nancy L. Thomas, Terena Thomas, Beth Thomas,

This shocking and thought provoking account is the true story of emotionally lost children and how some found their way back. Like a diamond in the rough, all of the kids who killed were tough and protected on the outside while hiding a glimmer of promise inside. For many of these children, the Thomas’s were their last hope. With the guidance of this courageous family, their stories of survival and victory break the unwritten code of silence about children without a conscience. Through therapeutic intervention comes the spellbinding metamorphosis of nine children. Although it stems from the deepest of human suffering, each shining triumph will leave you uplifted and celebrating life.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Families by Design | Pages: 291
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The Gift of Therapy

The Gift of Therapy

by Irvin Yalom

The culmination of master psychiatrist Dr. Irvin D. Yalom's more than thirty-five years in clinical practice, The Gift of Therapy is a remarkable and essential guidebook that illustrates through real case studies how patients and therapists alike can get the most out of therapy. The bestselling author of Love's Executioner shares his uniquely fresh approach and the valuable insights he has gained—presented as eighty-five personal and provocative "tips for beginner therapists," including: Let the patient matter to you Acknowledge your errors Create a new therapy for each patient Do home visits (Almost) never make decisions for the patient Freud was not always wrong A book aimed at enriching the therapeutic process for a new generation of patients and counselors, Yalom's Gift of Therapy is an entertaining, informative, and insightful read for anyone with an interest in the subject.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Harper Perennial | Pages: 320
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The Power of Countertransference

The Power of Countertransference

by Karen J. Maroda
Genre:  | publisher: Routledge | Pages: 212
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Why Is It Always About You?

Why Is It Always About You?

by Sandy Hotchkiss

In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Free Press | Pages: 240
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Paradise Restored

Paradise Restored

by David Chilton
Genre: Religion | publisher:  | Pages: 342
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The One Minute Manager

The One Minute Manager

by Kenneth Blanchard
Genre:  | publisher: Harper | Pages: 
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The Last Word On Power

The Last Word On Power

by Tracy Goss
Genre:  | publisher: RosettaBooks | Pages: 261
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Stumbling Toward Faith

Stumbling Toward Faith

by Renee Altson

Author Renee Altson understands all about being hurt, feeling alone, and full of doubt. While her story is an extreme example of abuse and mistreatment done in the name of God, her struggles with God as Father and with faith and disbelief are universal. This book is a perfect companion for those who have survived or know someone who has survived abuse, as well as for anyone who has ever questioned whether the journey toward faith is worthwhile. As you stumble with Renee, you will discover new deep places within your own heart and the freedom to question a God who is big enough to handle your doubts. May this book help you learn the breath and depth of the love of God and may the prayer you offer be the same as Renee's: 'I believe. Help my unbelief.'

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher:  | Pages: 192
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The Problem of Pain

The Problem of Pain

by CS Lewis

The author explores the intellectual questions raised by mental and physical suffering.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Zondervan | Pages: 176
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You were created in the image of God for the purpose of bringing Him glory. Perhaps you are currently in a season in which you do not feel that you are bringing glory to God. Maybe you are even questioning whether you were made in His image. Many people reach a point in their lives when they feel stuck. They want to move forward, but they feel powerless and don’t know where to turn. Using biblical principles, warmth, and patience, I will work with you to seek lasting, positive change that will help you reflect God’s image and bring Him glory. View Benjamin's Profile

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