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Erik Mildes

Licensed Counselor and Clinical Supervisor

Book reviews by Erik Mildes

Stop Walking on Eggshells

Stop Walking on Eggshells

by Paul T. Mason (M.S.), Randi Kreger,

Guide for family and friends of those with borderline personality disorder. Designed to help them understand how the disorder affects their loved ones and recognize what they can do to establish personal limits and enforce boundaries, communicate more effectively, and take care of themselves.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: New Harbinger Publications | Pages: 258
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The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook

The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook

by Randi Kreger

A practical guide to living with a person who suffers from a personality disorder shows readers how to set limits and boundaries, communicate clearly, make realistic decisions, and develop a safety plan. Original.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated | Pages: 207
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Embodying Forgiveness

Embodying Forgiveness

by L. Gregory Jones

In an engaging and interesting style that draws on a wide variety of literature as well as on Scripture and theological texts, Jones shows how the practices of Christian forgiveness are richer and more comprehensive than often thought.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing | Pages: 313
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The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook

The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook

by Edmund J. Bourne

Updated and fully revised, this essential resource for those struggling with anxiety, panic disorders or debilitating phobias offers skills and techniques for dealing with these issues including relaxation and breathing, ending negative self-talk, desensitization and lifestyle changes. Original.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated | Pages: 488
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Difficult Conversations

Difficult Conversations

by Douglas Stone, Sheila Heen, Bruce Patton,

The authors cover difficult situations in both personal and professional life.

Genre: Language Arts & Disciplines | publisher: Penguin Paperbacks | Pages: 315
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Getting to Yes

Getting to Yes

by Roger Fisher, William Ury, Bruce Patton,

"Since it was first published in 1981 Getting to Yes has become a central book in the Business Canon: the key text on the psychology of negotiation. Its message of "principled negotiations"--finding acceptable compromise by determining which needs are fixed and which are flexible for negotiating parties--has influenced generations of businesspeople, lawyers, educators and anyone who has sought to achieve a win-win situation in arriving at an agreement. It has sold over 8 million copies worldwide in 30 languages, and since it was first published by Penguin in 1991 (a reissue of the original addition with Bruce Patton as additional coauthor) has sold over 2.5 million copies--which places it as the #10 bestselling title overall in Penguin Books, and #3 bestselling nonfiction title overall. We have recently relicensed the rights to Getting to Yes, and will be doing a new revised edition--a 30th anniversary of the original publication and 20th of the Penguin edition. The authors will be bringing the book up to date with new material and a assessment of the legacy and achievement of Getting to Yes after three decades"--

Genre: Business & Economics | publisher: Penguin Paperbacks | Pages: 204
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How Children Raise Parents

How Children Raise Parents

by Dan B. Allender

A biblical approach to parenting allows readers to become better parents and better people who know God more fully and grow into spiritual maturity by listening to their children. Original.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: WaterBrook Press | Pages: 223
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Let your life speak

Let your life speak

by Parker J. Palmer

"Is the life I am living the same as the life that wants to live in me?" With this searching question, Parker Palmer begins an insightful and moving meditation on finding one's true calling. Let Your Life Speak is an openhearted gift to anyone who seeks to live authentically.The book's title is a time-honored Quaker admonition, usually taken to mean "Let the highest truths and values guide everything you do." But Palmer reinterprets those words, drawing on his own search for selfhood. "Before you tell your life what you intAnd to do with it," he writes, "listen for what it intAnds to do with you. Before you tell your life what truths and values you have decided to live up to, let your life tell you what truths you embody, what values you represent."Vocation does not come from willfulness, no matter how noble one's intentions. It comes from listening to and accepting "true self" with its limits as well as its potentials. Sharing stories of frailty and strength, of darkness and light, Palmer shows that vocation is not a goal to be achieved but a gift to be received.As we live more deeply into the selfhood that is our birthright gift, we find not only personal fulfillment. We find communion with others and ways of serving the world's deepest needs.A Compassionate and Compelling Meditation on Discovering Your Path in LifeWith wisdom, compassion, and gentle humor, Parker J. Palmer invites us to listen to the inner teacher and follow its leadings toward a sense of meaning and purpose. Telling stories from his own life and the lives of others who have made a difference, he shares insights gained from darkness and depression as well as fulfillment and joy, illuminating a pathway toward vocation for all who seek the true calling of their lives."Parker Palmer's writing is like a high country stream-clear, vital, honest. If your life seems to be passing you by, or you cannot see the way ahead, immerse yourself in the wisdom of these pages and allow it

Genre: Education | publisher: Jossey-Bass Inc Pub | Pages: 117
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The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook

The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook

by Edmund J. Bourne

Updated and fully revised, this essential resource for those struggling with anxiety, panic disorders or debilitating phobias offers skills and techniques for dealing with these issues including relaxation and breathing, ending negative self-talk, desensitization and lifestyle changes. Original.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated | Pages: 488
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Rees Howells

Rees Howells

by Norman Percy Grubb

Can one man's prayers change world events? This vivid, inspiring biography tells the story of a Welsh coal miner who surrendered himself entirely to God and found the key to prayer that changed the course of many nations.

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher: CLC Ministries | Pages: 263
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The One Minute Manager Anniversary Ed

The One Minute Manager Anniversary Ed

by Ken Blanchard, Spencer Johnson, Constance Johnson,

For more than twenty years, millions of managers in Fortune 500 companies and small businesses nationwide have followed The One Minute Manager's techniques, thus increasing their productivity, job satisfaction, and personal prosperity. These very real results were achieved through learning the management techniques that spell profitability for the organization and its employees. The One Minute Manager is a concise, easily read story that reveals three very practical secrets: One Minute Goals, One Minute Praisings, and One Minute Reprimands. The book also presents several studies in medicine and the behavioral sciences that clearly explain why these apparently simple methods work so well with so many people. By the book's end you will know how to apply them to your own situation and enjoy the benefits. That's why The One Minute Manager has continued to appear on business bestseller lists for more than two decades, and has become an international sensation.

Genre: Business & Economics | publisher: Harper Collins | Pages: 112
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Passionate Marriage

Passionate Marriage

by David Morris Schnarch

Explains how to achieve emotional, sexual, and personal fulfillment and intimacy while in a committed relationship.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: W. W. Norton | Pages: 444
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Bold Love

Bold Love

by Dan B. Allender, Tremper Longman, III,

The kind of love modeled by Jesus Christ had nothing to do with unconditional acceptance or manners. Learn to love others with a bold love.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 320
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Intimate Allies

Intimate Allies

by Dan B. Allender, Tremper Longman, III,

Allendar has produced a book that looks at the deep underlying reasons for the unhappiness many people feel in marriage.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. | Pages: 364
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

by John Gottman, John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver,

Drawing on groundbreaking research into the dynamics of healthy relationships, a study of the basic principles that make up a happy, long-lasting marriage shares easy-to-understand, helpful advice on how to cope with such issues as work, children, money, sex, and stress. 35,000 first printing. Tour.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Harmony | Pages: 320
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Resurrecting Sex

Resurrecting Sex

by David Schnarch, James Maddock,

In this remarkable new book, Dr. David Schnarch, world-renowned sex and marital therapist and author of Passionate Marriage, offers a groundbreaking approach to resolving sexual difficulties and the relationship problems they cause. By showing couples how they can turn their worst sex and relationship disasters into personal growth and spiritual connection, Dr. Schnarch offers couples the best sex of their lives. In addition to taking an unflinchingly honest, realistic, and erotic approach to sex, Dr. Schnarch reveals the complicated emotional interactions hidden within couples' most private moments. Resurrecting Sex speaks of compassion, partnership, generosity, and integrity in adult sexual relationships, offering hope to millions of people -- golden-anniversary marriages, newly formed couples, and singles alike -- who are struggling with sexual difficulties. Uplifting, provocative, and heartfelt, the book is organized into four sections: A crash course in sex Explanation of how sexual relationships really work Medical options and bionic solutions Vignettes of couples changing their sexual relationships Resurrecting Sex addresses all major sexual issues, including male erection problems such as rapid orgasm and delayed orgasm; women's problems with arousal and lubrication, difficulty reaching orgasm, and low desire; full coverage of Viagra (for both men and women); and other sex-enhancing drugs and medical options. Rather than dwelling on sexual techniques, this sympathetic book shows how to cure the rejection, hostility, and emotional alienation that often accompany sexual problems. Its unique method helps couples develop the love, affection, and commitment that prevent divorce and strengthen families. Generous of spirit, enlightened, and insightful, Resurrecting Sex is destined to make the world a better place to fall in love.

Genre: Self-Help | publisher: Harper | Pages: 336
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Adam's Return

Adam's Return

by Richard Rohr

The author of Everything Belongs and Enneagram introduces a guide to male spirituality that is designed to initiate young men into life's most important lessons--life is hard, you are not that important, life is not about you, you are not in control, and you are going to die. Original.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Crossroad Publishing Company | Pages: 205
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Falling Upward

Falling Upward

by Richard Rohr

A fresh way of thinking about spirituality that grows throughout life In Falling Upward, Fr. Richard Rohr seeks to help readers understand the tasks of the two halves of life and to show them that those who have fallen, failed, or "gone down" are the only ones who understand "up." Most of us tend to think of the second half of life as largely about getting old, dealing with health issues, and letting go of life, but the whole thesis of this book is exactly the opposite. What looks like falling down can largely be experienced as "falling upward." In fact, it is not a loss but somehow actually a gain, as we have all seen with elders who have come to their fullness. Explains why the second half of life can and should be full of spiritual richness Offers a new view of how spiritual growth happens?loss is gain Richard. Rohr is a regular contributing writer for Sojourners and Tikkun magazines This important book explores the counterintuitive message that we grow spiritually much more by doing wrong than by doing right.

Genre: Religion | publisher: John Wiley & Sons | Pages: 240
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Why Is It Always About You?

Why Is It Always About You?

by Sandy Hotchkiss

In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Free Press | Pages: 240
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Parenting with Love and Logic

Parenting with Love and Logic

by Foster Cline, Jim Fay,

Cline and Fay offer advice to help parents raise kids who are self-confident, motivated, and ready for the world by teaching them responsibility and the logic of life, thereby giving them the opportunity to solve their own problems from the earliest possible age.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 271
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Positive Parenting with A Plan

Positive Parenting with A Plan

by Matthew A. Johnson, Matthew V. Johnson,

I spend a great deal of time working with AT RISK children and their families. I have observed that organization and structure helps to greatly improve the family environment. Dr. Johnson's book, Positive Parenting with a Plan, helps parents to restore responsibility and respect in their homes. Children and adolescents learn to obey their parents and other authority figures at school, church, and in their community. Everyone learns to communicate their expectations and friendships develop as a result. The whole family wins with Positive Parenting with a Plan! Mark Eaton, Former All-Star Center, Utah Jazz. Positive Parenting with a Plan, provides the best way to run a family whether you think you've got it together or not. Applying concepts of Positive Parenting with a Plan in our family was a major key to our successful journey from chaos and rebellion to a place of family wholeness and peace. Most importantly, applying Positive Parenting with a Plan in our family got dad and mom on the same sheet of music, clarified our family priorities, and gave us the structure we needed to succeed. James M. Dorman, Lt. Col., USAF.

Genre: Parenting | publisher: Family Rules, Inc. | Pages: 190
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When Love is Not Enough

When Love is Not Enough

by Nancy L. Thomas

When Love is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD-Reactive Attachment Disorder brings hope and healing tools to parents and professionals working to help challenging children. Effective interventions, a full step by step plan, clearer insight and understanding make a powerful difference in helping children heal. If you want to make a difference in the life of a hurting child, this book will do it! This plan was honed on some of the most difficult children in the US and has been used successfully to help thousands of children around the world. Children can learn to be respectful, responsible and fun to be with. This book tells the reader how to do it and then zaps them with a boost of encouragement to get started!

Genre: Education | publisher:  | Pages: 141
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Controlling People

Controlling People

by Patricia Evans

Learn how to 'break the spell' of control with Patricia Evans' new bestseller. Already hailed by Oprah Winfrey, Controlling People deals with issues big and small - revealing the thought processes of those who seek to control in order to provide a 'spell-breaking' mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Invaluable insight and advice for those who seek support.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Adams Media | Pages: 352
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Prayer

Prayer

by Philip Yancey

Explores the concept of prayer, examining what a prayer is, how they work, and if they work.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Zondervan | Pages: 359
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Cracking Up

Cracking Up

by Christopher Bollas

In Being a Character, Christopher Bollas argued that Freud's vision of the dream process is a model for all unconscious mental experience. In Cracking Up he extends his exploration of the inner world of human experience and suggests that the rhythm of that experience is vital to individual creativity. It allows us to develop what the author calls a 'separate sense', which we use to assess the meanings of our own experiences and also to attune ourselves sympathetically to the lives of other people. In this original and thought-provoking book, Bollas examines how people educate one another in the idioms of their unconscious lives and considers the nature and consequences of the traumas that inhibit the freedom to do this. He studies what we mean by the past - is it unchangeable or can history be a creative, open understanding of experience? We come to know who we are by giving form and meaning to our past - yet what do we mean by the self? Bollas' answer suggests yet more ways in which the 'separate sense' expresses each person's unique qualities.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Hill and Wang | Pages: 264
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The Power of Countertransference

The Power of Countertransference

by Karen J. Maroda

A signpost of the relational turn in contemporary psychoanalysis, Karen Maroda's The Power of Countertransference, published in 1991, is perhaps the first systematic effort to integrate the need for mutual emotional exchanges, which may include the analyst's own self-disclosures, into an interactive model of psychoanalytic practice. Maroda's call for emotional honesty and affective self-disclosure had an immediate impact on the field and led Harold Searles to comment, "If we follow the example set by Maroda, we shall be minimally likely to 'act in' our emotions in our sessions with our patients. They will benefit greatly as a result; we practitioners shall benefit; and the profession of psychoanalysis and psychoanalytic therapy will become healthier and stronger than it is at present." This revised edition includes a new Foreword by Lewis Aron and an Afterword in which Maroda clarifies her own position and comments on the evolution of psychoanalytic technique since the publication of The Power of Countertransference.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Routledge | Pages: 201
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The Drama of the Gifted Child

The Drama of the Gifted Child

by Alice Miller

Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided thousands of readers with an answer—and has helped them to apply it to their own lives.Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents’ expectations and win their ”love.” Alice Miller writes, ”When I used the word ’gifted’ in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb… Without this ’gift’ offered us by nature, we would not have survived.” But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Basic Books | Pages: 136
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Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy, Fifth Edition

Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy, Fifth Edition

by Irvin D. Yalom, Molyn Leszcz,

The fifth edition of the best-selling text?completely revised to reflect the latest developments in the field

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Basic Books | Pages: 688
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The Gift of Therapy

The Gift of Therapy

by Irvin Yalom

The culmination of master psychiatrist Dr. Irvin D. Yalom's more than thirty-five years in clinical practice, The Gift of Therapy is a remarkable and essential guidebook that illustrates through real case studies how patients and therapists alike can get the most out of therapy. The bestselling author of Love's Executioner shares his uniquely fresh approach and the valuable insights he has gained—presented as eighty-five personal and provocative "tips for beginner therapists," including: Let the patient matter to you Acknowledge your errors Create a new therapy for each patient Do home visits (Almost) never make decisions for the patient Freud was not always wrong A book aimed at enriching the therapeutic process for a new generation of patients and counselors, Yalom's Gift of Therapy is an entertaining, informative, and insightful read for anyone with an interest in the subject.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Harper Perennial | Pages: 320
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The Cry of the Soul

The Cry of the Soul

by Dan B. Allender, Tremper Longman, III,

Embrace your negative emotions (anger, worry, fear) to reveal truths about God and gain a more intimate relationship with Him.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 270
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The Healing Path

The Healing Path

by Dan B. Allender

A compelling, inspirational guide to healing from old wounds shows readers how to channel the painful energy of past hurts into a meaningful, fruitful life. Original.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Waterbrook Press | Pages: 272
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Telling Secrets

Telling Secrets

by Frederick Buechner

With eloquence, candor, and simplicity, a celebrated author tells the story of his father's alcohol abuse and suicide and traces the influence of this secret on his life as a son, father, husband, minister, and writer.

Genre: Religion | publisher: HarperOne | Pages: 128
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Addiction and Grace

Addiction and Grace

by Gerald G. May

Addiction and Grace offers an inspiring and hope–filled vision for those who desire to explore the mystery of who and what they really are. May examines the "processes of attachment" that lead to addiction and describes the relationship between addiction and spiritual awareness. He also details the various addictions from which we can suffer, not only to substances like alcohol and drugs, but to work, sex, performance, responsibility, and intimacy. Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist working with the chemically dependent, May emphasizes that addiction represents an attempt to assert complete control over our lives. Addiction and Grace is a compassionate and wise treatment of a topic of major concern in these most addictive of times, one that can provide a critical yet hopeful guide to a place of freedom based on contemplative spirituality.

Genre: Self-Help | publisher: HarperOne | Pages: 240
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Sacred Pain

Sacred Pain

by Ariel Glucklich

Why would anyone seek out the very experience the rest of us most wish to avoid? Why would religious worshipers flog or crucify themselves, sleep on spikes, hang suspended by their flesh, or walk for miles through scorching deserts with bare and bloodied feet? In this insightful new book, Ariel Glucklich argues that the experience of ritual pain, far from being a form of a madness or superstition, contains a hidden rationality and can bring about a profound transformation of the consciousness and identity of the spiritual seeker. Steering a course between purely cultural and purely biological explanations, Glucklich approaches sacred pain from the perspective of the practitioner to fully examine the psychological and spiritual effects of self-hurting. He discusses the scientific understanding of pain, drawing on research in fields such as neuropsychology and neurology. He also ranges over a broad spectrum of historical and cultural contexts, showing the many ways mystics, saints, pilgrims, mourners, shamans, Taoists, Muslims, Hindus, Native Americans, and indeed members of virtually every religion have used pain to achieve a greater identification with God. He examines how pain has served as a punishment for sin, a cure for disease, a weapon against the body and its desires, or a means by which the ego may be transcended and spiritual sickness healed. "When pain transgresses the limits," the Muslim mystic Mizra Asadullah Ghalib is quoted as saying, "it becomes medicine." Based on extensive research and written with both empathy and critical insight, Sacred Pain explores the uncharted inner terrain of self-hurting and reveals how meaningful suffering has been used to heal the human spirit.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Oxford University Press on Demand | Pages: 278
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Skin Game

Skin Game

by Caroline Kettlewell

A personal account of the struggle with self-mutilation or "cutting," discusses the family turmoil and personal anguish that led an intelligent young woman to relieve her anxieties by self-mutilation

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher: Macmillan | Pages: 192
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The Wounded Heart

The Wounded Heart

by Dan B. Allender

A non-discriminating guide for friends of adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse offers specific insights into the trauma form's intensely personal aspects and how to offer faith-based support, sharing additional coverage of related false-memory issues.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 271
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Naming the Shadows

Naming the Shadows

by Susan Roth

Although numerous books have been written about childhood incest and trauma, until now none of them has combined the best of what scientific psychology has to offer with detailed representation and narrative about the ways that childhood sexual trauma within the family context affects the lives of adult survivors. Naming the Shadows is the first book to offer practitioners and students-in-training an in-depth exploration of a trauma-focused approach to individual and group psychotherapy that respects scientific rules of evidence and at the same time attempts to honor the complexity and subjectivity of an individual survivor's experience. Roth and Batson, psychologist and psychiatrist, respectively, with many years of expertise in treating survivors of sexual trauma, explain how targets of treatment are conceptualized as identity and relational issues that derive from an enduring adaptation to childhood trauma. The authors believe that, at its best, psychotherapy provides a therapeutic social context in which survivors can achieve a true understanding of their adaptation and gain self-knowledge of the meaning and enduring influence of traumatic childhood experience. Drawing on the authors' own innovative research, on the widespread experience of colleagues, and on vivid dialogue from survivors themselves, Naming the Shadows has important implications for our understanding of the process of coping with childhood sexual abuse.

Genre: Psychology | publisher:  | Pages: 226
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False Intimacy

False Intimacy

by Harry W. Schaumburg, The Navigators,

Biblical healing from sexual addiction with hope and compassion.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Navpress Publishing Group | Pages: 256
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A Million Little Pieces

A Million Little Pieces

by James Frey

A memoir of drug and alcohol abuse and the rehabilitation experience examines addiction and recovery through the eyes of a man who had taken his addictions to deadly extremes, describing the battle to confront the consequences of his life.

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher: Anchor Books | Pages: 430
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Drinking

Drinking

by Caroline Knapp

The author provides a candid memoir of her twenty-year love affair with alcohol, explaining how and why she became an alcoholic and her struggle to live without an alcoholic crutch.

Genre: Alcoholics | publisher: Random House LLC | Pages: 286
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The Problem of Pain

The Problem of Pain

by CS Lewis

The author explores the intellectual questions raised by mental and physical suffering.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Zondervan | Pages: 176
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God at War

God at War

by Gregory A. Boyd

Discusses the problem of evil, the Bible narrative, and the teachings of Jesus in the light of the age old conflict between God and the Devil.

Genre: Religion | publisher: InterVarsity Press | Pages: 414
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Satan and the Problem of Evil

Satan and the Problem of Evil

by Gregory A. Boyd

Gregory Boyd seeks to defend his scripturally grounded trinitarian warfare theod-icy with rigorous philosophical reflection and insights from human experience and scientific discovery.

Genre: Religion | publisher: InterVarsity Press | Pages: 456
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The God Who Risks

The God Who Risks

by John Sanders

If God is all-knowing and all-powerful, can he in any way be vulnerable to his creation? Can God be in control of anything at all if he is not constantly in control of everything? John Sanders says yes to both of these questions. In The God Who Risks, he mounts a careful and challenging argument for positive answers to both of these profound theological questions. In this thoroughly revised edition, Sanders clarifies his position and responds to his critics. His book will not only contribute to serious ongoing theological discussion but will enlighten pastors and laypersons who struggle with questions about suffering, evil and human free will.

Genre: Religion | publisher: IVP Academic | Pages: 384
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Paradise Restored

Paradise Restored

by David Chilton
Genre: Religion | publisher:  | Pages: 342
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Beyond Foundationalism

Beyond Foundationalism

by Stanley James Grenz, John R. Franke,

Grenz and Franke provide a methodological approach for doing theology in the postmodern world. They call for a theological method that moves beyond the Enlightenment way of ordering and understanding information (foundationalism). They propose a theological method that takes seriously the Spirit, tradition and contemporary culture, while stressing trinitarian structure, community and eschatology.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Westminster John Knox Press | Pages: 298
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The Next Christendom

The Next Christendom

by Philip Jenkins

This new and substantially expanded edition of Philip Jenkins's influential book The Next Christendom tracks the remarkable expansion of Christianity in the global South, in Africa, Asia and Latin America, and the implications of that shift in numbers and influence away from the traditional Christian heartlands of Europe and North America.

Genre: Religion | publisher: OUP USA | Pages: 346
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A New Kind of Christian

A New Kind of Christian

by Brian D. McLaren

A Leadership Network Publication A New Kind of Christian's conversation between a pastor and his daughter's high school science teacher reveals that wisdom for life's most pressing spiritual questions can come from the most unlikely sources. This stirring fable captures a new spirit of Christianity--where personal, daily interaction with God is more important than institutional church structures, where faith is more about a way of life than a system of belief, where being authentically good is more important than being doctrinally "right," and where one's direction is more important than one's present location. Brian McLaren's delightful account offers a wise and wondrous approach for revitalizing Christian spiritual life and Christian congregations. If you are interested in joining a discussion group devoted to a A New Kind of Christian please visit groups.yahoo.com/group/NKOC.

Genre: Religion | publisher: John Wiley & Sons | Pages: 320
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The Story We Find Ourselves In

The Story We Find Ourselves In

by Brian D. McLaren

The much anticipated sequel to McLaren's award-winning "A New Kind of Christian" captures a new spirit of a relevant Christianity, where traditional divisions and doctrinal differences give way to a focus on God.

Genre: Fiction | publisher: John Wiley & Sons | Pages: 336
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Face to Face with God

Face to Face with God

by Bill Johnson

In his unique teaching style, Pastor Bill Johnson delivers a message to help readers pursue God for greater measures of His presence than they have ever known before. In Face to Face With God, readers will learn:• How to “set up an ambush” to apprehend God rather than just waiting on God• What it means to enter “the favor of His face,” and how it changes history• How to deal with invading thoughts that enter the mind during prayer/ meditation time• The reward of keeping one's eyes on the “Blesser” instead of reaching for the blessing• What happens when God speaks directly as a result of obedience• How to move beyond the spiritual plateaus to ride the coming wave of revival

Genre: Religion | publisher: Charisma Media | Pages: 227
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The Supernatural Power of a Transformed Mind Expanded Edition

The Supernatural Power of a Transformed Mind Expanded Edition

by Bill Johnson

Bill Johnson is the senior pastor of Bethel Church, Redding CA. and serves a growing number of churches that have partnered for revival. In Supernatural Power of a Transformed Mind, Johnson delivers powerful and practical teaching, revealing how you were designed to bring heaven to Earth and how it all starts with your thought life. Original.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Destiny Image Incorporated | Pages: 224
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Three Steps on the Ladder of Writing

Three Steps on the Ladder of Writing

by Hélène Cixous, Sarah Cornell, Susan Sellers,

Three Steps on the Ladder of Writing is a poetic, insightful, and ultimately moving exploration of 'the strange science of writing.' In a magnetic, irresistible narrative, Cixous reflects on the writing process and explores three distinct areas essential for 'great' writing: The School of the Dead--the notion that something or someone must die in order for good writing to be born; The School of Dreams--the crucial role dreams play in literary inspiration and output; and The School of Roots--the importance of depth in the 'nether realms' in all aspects of writing. Cixous's love of language and passion for the written word is evident on every page. Her emotive style draws heavily on the writers she most admires: the Brazilian novelist Clarice Lispector, the Russian poet Marina Tsvetaeva, the Austrian novelists Ingeborg Bachmann and Thomas Bernhard, Dostoyevsky and, most of all, Kafka. -- Jacques Derrida

Genre: Language Arts & Disciplines | publisher: Columbia University Press | Pages: 162
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Their Eyes Were Watching God

Their Eyes Were Watching God

by Zora Neale Hurston

One of the most important works of twentieth-century American literature, Zora Neale Hurston's beloved 1937 classic, Their Eyes Were Watching God, is an enduring Southern love story sparkling with wit, beauty, and heartfelt wisdom. Told in the captivating voice of a woman who refuses to live in sorrow, bitterness, fear, or foolish romantic dreams, it is the story of fair-skinned, fiercely independent Janie Crawford, and her evolving selfhood through three marriages and a life marked by poverty, trials, and purpose. A true literary wonder, Hurston's masterwork remains as relevant and affecting today as when it was first published -- perhaps the most widely read and highly regarded novel in the entire canon of African American literature.

Genre: Fiction | publisher: Harper Collins | Pages: 256
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My First White Friend

My First White Friend

by Patricia Raybon

A black writer and commentator on National Public Radio's Weekend Edition traces her path from hatred of white people to love through learning to love herself and overcoming her alienation from her race. Reprint.

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher: Penguin | Pages: 236
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Love's Executioner

Love's Executioner

by Irvin D. Yalom

The risks and rewards of psychotherapy are examined by one of its finest practitioners through ten case studies of individuals with unique problems that nevertheless reflect on the whole human condition.

Genre: Psychology | publisher: Basic Books | Pages: 285
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Realities and Relationships

Realities and Relationships

by Kenneth J. Gergen

Recent attempts to challenge the primacy of reason--and its realization in foundationalist accounts of knowledge and cognitive formulations of human action--have focused on processes of discourse. Drawing from social and literary accounts of discourse, Kenneth Gergen considers these challenges to empiricism under the banner of "social construction." His aim is to outline the major elements of a social constructionist perspective, to illustrate its potential, and to initiate debate on the future of constructionist pursuits in the human sciences generally and psychology in particular.

Genre:  | publisher: Harvard University Press | Pages: 368
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The Last Word and the Word After That

The Last Word and the Word After That

by Brian D. McLaren

In this final installment in the trilogy that begins with his award-winning "A New Kind Of Christian," McLaren tells an intriguing fictional tale that raises urgent questions about hell and what it means for the Christian view of God.

Genre: Fiction | publisher: John Wiley & Sons | Pages: 336
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Stumbling Toward Faith

Stumbling Toward Faith

by Renee Altson

Author Renee Altson understands all about being hurt, feeling alone, and full of doubt. While her story is an extreme example of abuse and mistreatment done in the name of God, her struggles with God as Father and with faith and disbelief are universal. This book is a perfect companion for those who have survived or know someone who has survived abuse, as well as for anyone who has ever questioned whether the journey toward faith is worthwhile. As you stumble with Renee, you will discover new deep places within your own heart and the freedom to question a God who is big enough to handle your doubts. May this book help you learn the breath and depth of the love of God and may the prayer you offer be the same as Renee's: 'I believe. Help my unbelief.'

Genre: Biography & Autobiography | publisher:  | Pages: 192
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Female Perversions

Female Perversions

by Louise J. Kaplan

Louise J. Kaplan challenges the traditional view that perversion represents deviant sexual behavior in this "fascinating and ambitious new study".--The New York Times Book Review. "This masterful study breaks new ground in our understanding of sexuality, gender roles and the way modern society trivializes erotic expression".--Publishers Weekly.

Genre: Bovary, Emma (Fictitious character) | publisher: Jason Aronson Incorporated | Pages: 580
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Strengthen Yourself in the Lord

Strengthen Yourself in the Lord

by Bill Johnson

Today's believer is faced with situations unknown fifty, thirty, even twenty years ago. To stand in victory and enter our hour of promotion is to learn how to Strengthen Yourself in the Lord. You will learn how to: Encourage yourself, Overcome seriously bad days, Stay connected to your destiny, Access Heaven's open door and Disarm hell with thanksgiving.

Genre:  | publisher: Destiny Image | Pages: 178
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Dandelion on My Pillow, Butcher Knife Beneath

Dandelion on My Pillow, Butcher Knife Beneath

by Nancy L. Thomas, Terena Thomas, Beth Thomas,

This shocking and thought provoking account is the true story of emotionally lost children and how some found their way back. Like a diamond in the rough, all of the kids who killed were tough and protected on the outside while hiding a glimmer of promise inside. For many of these children, the Thomas’s were their last hope. With the guidance of this courageous family, their stories of survival and victory break the unwritten code of silence about children without a conscience. Through therapeutic intervention comes the spellbinding metamorphosis of nine children. Although it stems from the deepest of human suffering, each shining triumph will leave you uplifted and celebrating life.

Genre: Family & Relationships | publisher: Families by Design | Pages: 291
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Wild at Heart

Wild at Heart

by John Eldredge

John Eldredge revises and updates his best-selling, renowned Christian classic. God designed men to be dangerous, says John Eldredge. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the heart of every boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to live a life of adventure and risk. Sadly, most men abandon those dreams and desires-aided by a Christianity that feels like nothing more than pressure to be a "nice guy." It is no wonder that many men avoid church, and those who go are often passive and bored to death. In this provocative book, Eldredge gives women a look inside the true heart of a man and gives men permission to be what God designed them to be-dangerous, passionate, alive, and free.

Genre: Religion | publisher: Thomas Nelson Inc | Pages: 255
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The Last Word on Power

The Last Word on Power

by Tracy Goss

In their effort to succeed, today's leaders will reinvent anything--anything but themselves, and this is why so many attempts to revolutionize business fail. Tracy Goss runs a course for executives so that they can reinvent themselves for the next "mission impossible," and Goss has run this highly successful course for the last fifteen years. Do you want to do work that is worthy of your time and talent? Do you want to make your mark on your industry, company, or within your community? Are you satisfied with the fact that reengineering, quality improvements, and other changes never really make a lasting impact? Then you need to go beyond the techniques of improvement and learn the skills that it takes to be extraordinary. The power to be extraordinary is not one we are born with. Rather, it is a power that one can learn, and Tracy Goss helps executives realize this power. Here in this book for the first time, Goss makes her coursework available to the general reader. Goss's unique methodology shows how you how "you can put at risk the success you have achieved for the 'possibility' you can be." She positions executives to take on the future that they dream about. She teaches how to behave differently so that you are free of past constraints. She shows how you can be at home in the environment in which you are constantly surrounded by threats, and how to transcend the ordinary to make the impossible happen. Her work has resulted in many important life changes and organizational reinventions worldwide.

Genre: Business & Economics | publisher: RosettaBooks | Pages: 288
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Not the Way It's Supposed to Be

Not the Way It's Supposed to Be

by Cornelius Plantinga

"Plantinga's treatment of sin is comprehensive, articulate, and well written. It confirms the orthodox and neo-orthodox doctrine of sin, lavishly illustrates it from contemporary events, and plumbs depths in understanding sin's complexities and banalities...

Genre: Religion | publisher: Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing | Pages: 216
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Erik Mildes, MA, LMHC

Licensed Counselor and Clinical Supervisor

I believe in the healing, transformative promises of Christ. I also believe in His patience, and have had the privilege of seeing God’s grace work miracles in the lives of my clients. As a Master’s level Mental Health Counselor, I’m honored to act as a vessel for the Lord, one that will help you discover healing and growth. I help people recover from issues like abuse, depression, anxiety, broken relationships, spiritual concerns, and more. Whatever you’re going through, I offer you support, experience, and hope for a new, Christ-filled future. View Erik's Profile

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