Help for Partners of Sex Addicts

Help for partners of sex addicts comes in many forms. It all depends on your unique experience with sexual addiction and what you’re looking for in terms of healing. Maybe your partner doesn’t want to face their addiction, or maybe they are in sexual addiction treatment. Maybe you want to learn how to forgive and help your partner recover, or maybe you just need some help sorting through your many painful and sometimes confusing emotions. Whatever the case might be for you, we have the insight, tools, and support you need to move through the darkness in your life and into the healing promises of Christ Jesus.

Am I Married to a Sex Addict?

When you discover that your partner has a problem with pornography, infidelity, or any other sexual behavior that damages your relationship, you might find yourself thinking things like, Is this normal? or Did I do something to cause this? You might even be tempted to make excuses for your partner’s behavior rather than risk confronting them or dealing with the pain it makes you feel. If you’re unsure of whether or not your partner has a problem, here are some common signs of sexual addiction:

If you wonder whether or not your partner has a sex addiction problem, consider these common signs of sexual addiction:

• Staying up late on the Internet or watching TV.
• Frequently isolating themselves from you without letting you know his or her whereabouts
• Controlling during sexual activity or have frequent mood swings before or after sex
• Gets angry if someone expresses concern about his or her pornography use
• Seems to be preoccupied with sexual thoughts or behaviors
• Is increasingly dishonest
• Hides pornography at work or home

If you suspect that your partner has a problem with sexual addiction, but you don’t know how to deal with it, we can offer you practical advice and solutions. Whether or not he or she is ready or willing to get help, Christian counseling can still be very beneficial for you.

Discovering that your partner has a sex addiction is very traumatizing. This can cause things like persistent anxiety, depression, flashbacks, nightmares, and obsessing over the details of who, what, when, where, and why. In fact, studies show that about 70 percent of people in these situations experience post-traumatic stress disorder, severely impairing his or her ability to function in day to day life. It isn’t uncommon for partners of sex addicts to feel they are “losing their mind.” This is a very stressful, emotional, and confusing time; having someone with an unbiased perspective to talk to can be very healing.

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. – Psalm 34:18

You might understandably feel that your spirit has been crushed and your heart broken by betrayal. At Bellevue Christian Counseling, our hope is to help you find hope and rest in the peace of Christ Jesus as He brings you guidance and healing. That is our ultimate goal, and the way this is accomplished is different for each person.

Common goals of Christian counseling for partners of sex addicts include:

• Discovering healthy ways to process your emotions.
• Growing your relationship with yourself, others, and with Christ.
• Finding tools for supporting your partner’s recovery.
• Helping you break away from enabling or codependent behaviors.
• Moving towards forgiveness and peace.

The pain you feel now won’t last forever. At Seattle Christian Counseling, we hope to help you come out, this time,stronger, healthier, and more connected with yourself, your partner, and with Christ Jesus.

If You’re Ready To Let Go And Heal, Contact Us Today.

To learn more about Christian counseling for partners of sex addicts or to schedule an appointment, contact us online or give us a call at 425-939-6856.